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Examine your Core Beliefs! Healing and prevention requires love, compassion and empathy… As children, we apply meaning to experiences … Whenever we are excluded, bullied, abused, ignored, not believed, blamed.. The meaning (Because as young children we tend to view adults as perfect beings that…
What does the opposite look like?
Lived Experience Insight Trauma alters our perception .. Very many years ago … although my eyes were showing me that connection, belonging, joy, love, calm, safety, happiness, peace etc existed… it only existed for others as far as I was concerned… It was impossible to comprehend that the same…
How do you feel?
‘How do you feel?’ Is a question I ask people frequently … Not everyone has the words to express how they feel… ‘Okay’! … is a popular answer -but what does ‘okay’ actually mean? T truth is, not everyone knows how to feel their emotions let alone knowing how to describe them. Have you ever…
Chasing Safe
‼️Trigger Alert‼️ this post shares lived experience of Domestic Violence and trauma … “Trauma is not what happened to you… Trauma is what happened inside of you, because of what happened to you” - Gabor Mate You are a whole person - mind, body, soul … connected. When something terrible happens to…
Us & Them
I recall the day that my last unhealthy relationship ended .. I wasn’t expecting to be in an unhealthy relationship again to be honest… I was older now, wiser (allegedly), more self-aware. I’d overcome.. I’d been there, done that… got the T Shirt, and matching sweater… I’d worked on myself… I knew…
Awakening Vs Evolving
There's a lot of talk about 'awakening'... Seeing the world as it really is... Awakening is important.. but it's only part of the story - and it's not even the most important part... Awakening allows us to see 'the world' i.e. others' as it really is - or as 'they' are... But let's not leave…
The Illusion of Ethics
Cancel culture... manifested on the back of decades of installing an illusion of ethics. You know the kind of ethics I mean - the ones that are copy & pasted into every business & workplace, and nobody really knows what they mean. The kind of ethics that are so transparent they don't…
When the question is always Why?
Curiosity may have killed the cat, but for me, it remains a life-affirming pursuit. From as far back as I can remember..around the age of 3, I’ve been asking this question Why? ‘Why would someone choose to do that? “What would motivate that decision? “How did they arrive at this point? “ “When did…
The Lived Experience of Integration in Relationships
The Science… ‘Secure attachment creates integration in the brain because communication in relationships early in life have been integrative. When you have experiences in relationships where honouring of differences & then promoting of compassionate, caring linkages …. those relational…