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Choosing Connection
Choosing Connection in a World of Criticism “The true measure of leadership is not in how much authority we hold, but in how much safety we create.” For many people, success is defined by money, possessions, fame, or superiority. For me, success looks very different.…
Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say
Why Language Matters in Healing Words don’t just land in our minds, they land in our bodies. For those of us who’ve lived through trauma, language can be a trigger or a balm. Words hold weight, tone, and intention, and when they’re used carelessly, they can feel like little paper cuts to the…
Healing Belongs To Everyone
“There is no greater expert on your healing than you.” So when did healing become a product? I’ve been reflecting lately on the amount of gatekeeping that happens in the world of healing. Take tapping, for example — a simple, natural tool. No one owns it. No one invented the act of tapping on their…
Remembering Edna
Edna - Who sang through her sorrow and loved through her pain. You taught me more about strength, softness, and spirit than words could ever capture. Thank you for trusting me with your truth. This is for you. I met Edna in an unusual way—though for her, it was everyday life. I’d just become…
The Junction Between Arrogance and Confidence: A Reflection on Inclusion, Integrity, and Lived Experience
I’ve been sitting with something lately. There’s a subtle but important space—a junction—between confidence and arrogance. Between staying true to a vision and being open to feedback. Between being inclusive and being assumed to be wrong because your approach doesn’t match the mainstream……
The Rules Keep Changing - Part Two: The Coat
Lena had a coat. A soft, dove-grey one with a silky lining and pockets deep enough for her whole world. It had been a birthday gift—one of the few things that felt like it belonged to her. But even gifts came with invisible rules. She was only allowed to wear it when her mum said so. Not when Lena…
The Rules Keep Changing
Imagine you’re nine years old. You’ve packed your school bag carefully today—not just with books, but with hope. Your friend Lily invited you to her house after school, and this morning—miraculously—your mum said yes. Not just “we’ll see” or “maybe”—but a real, actual yes. It felt like sunshine.…
What Will Become of Us If We Don’t Wake Up?
I woke suddenly in the early hours, not from a dream I can remember, but with a deep, heavy ache in my chest. Not personal grief — something broader. A sadness that felt collective. A knowing that whispered: “We must wake up.” What are we doing to each other? As humans, we can be so arrogantly…
Nervous System Lens
I recently shared a post about being labelled “furthest from the labour market” — a term that, like many labels, carried more weight than just the words themselves. At the time, I didn’t realise how deeply that label would trigger core beliefs about not being good enough. It’s not just the label,…
Plot Twist: The Secret of the Hypervigilant Brain
“A brain shaped by years of hypervigilance is finely tuned for survival. Imagine the power of that same brain when it’s re-trained to scan for connection, opportunity, growth and for good. The Reticular Activating System doesn’t lose its focus—it simply learns to trust. When we begin to trust…