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The Devouring Mother Archetype
According to Jung, the ‘Devouring Mother’ archetype, consumes her children psychologically and emotionally, preventing their independence from her (Know Your Archetypes, 2020). This mother is selfish rather than selfless. She acts as if she is protecting her children from the real world, while she…
Triangulation
Triangulation is a manipulative tactic, used to create divisions and tensions within a group dynamic (Bay, 2024). Triangulation has three distinct roles: the target, the persecutor and the rescuer (Bay, 2024). The rescuer often confuses the persecutor with the target (Bay, 2024). The persecutor is…
Resentment
Letting go of anger can be a lot harder than you realize, especially if you continue to feed your anger by hyper-focusing on negative emotions such as hostility, hate and bitterness, until your anger festers into resentment (Clinic, 2024). If your feelings of being wronged by circumstances or…
Avoidant Personality
Avoidant Personality (AVP), or Avoidant Personality Disorder as classified by the DSM- (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition), is characterized as hypersensitivity to rejection due to a deep sense of inadequacy (Fariba and Sapra, 2021). AVP can be genetic or the…
Reputation Savaging
Reputation savaging is an act of violence by innuendo to cause a targeted individual to be lowered in a group’s estimation (Petric, 2022). A ruined reputation seriously effects the well-being of those who experience it (Centre for Addiction and Mental Health, 2018). An individual’s reputation…
The Limits of Your Life Are the Limits You Choose” — But It’s Not the Whole Story
I saw a post today that read: “The limits of your life are the limits you choose.” At first glance it feels inspiring, almost liberating — as if choice alone shapes destiny. But it also got me reflecting on something important: Nothing is relevant until it becomes relevant. Nothing truly lands…
How Trauma Held in the Body Shapes Our Thoughts, Behaviours, and Vulnerabilities
Trauma isn’t just something that happened to us — it’s something that lives in us. It lives in our bodies, in the patterns we learned to survive, and in the emotions we pushed down because they were too much to hold at the time. When old wounds stay unhealed, they don’t disappear. They simply go…
Intergenerational Trauma Isn’t About Blame — It’s About Nervous Systems Doing Their Best
Why children self-soothe, why parents struggle, and how the 7Rs Pathways offer the route to repair We often talk about cycles in families as though they are rooted in deliberate choices or moral failings. But most intergenerational trauma has nothing to do with intentional harm. What truly passes…
When Survivors Heal, Systems Shift
Over the past few weeks, my posts about trauma have sparked some deep conversation and connection. Yet when I spoke about the challenges around funding, gatekeeping, and entrenched thinking within safeguarding systems, the response was very different — absolute silence. I’ve been reflecting on why…
When Prevention Work Isn’t Understood: A Call for Clarity in UK Safeguarding Funding
I want to share something important about the challenges we face in delivering grooming-prevention training across the UK. This is not about criticising any individual funder — it’s about highlighting a recurring pattern that affects prevention work nationally. We applied for funding for a…