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Coincidence & Connection
(Originally written May 2020) I’m interested in hearing about strange Coincidences and Connections that you have experienced in your life for an upcoming podcast. If you’re happy to share, and are willing to join me on a podcast for series 3, please get in touch. In the meantime, Here are a…
The Agreements We Live By
The Four Agreements, is a Toltec Wisdom book written by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book is described by Deepak Chopra as a roadmap to enlightenment and freedom. I recommend this book to anyone who is genuinely interested in personal development and seeking freedom, happiness and love in their lives. I…
When I first presented STAND for the prevention of grooming behaviours in 2015, it was with the sole purpose of contributing to the prevention of Child Sexual Abuse. The intention was to raise awareness of how adults/parents are groomed in order to gain access to their child/children. I'd spotted a…
Coercive Behaviour
Those of us with lived experience of toxic environments and oppressive relationships, recognise the familiar territory of coercive, manipulative behaviours which I’ve written about a lot over the years in my blog posts and abuse prevention workshops. ‘Narcissist’, has become…
"If you pin me to my past, you forbid me a future, Judgements are built to last, Let my conscious be my tutor".... Above is the first line of a poem written by me aged 14 entitled Judgement. By the tender age of 14, I had already developed an incredibly low opinion of myself which I…
Manipulation
The 3 C’s of Manipulation Control People who manipulate and abuse others, begin by taking control of the situation. Keen observers, they seek vulnerability in others, instinctively knowing who to target and how. They will use their knowledge, skills, charm, charisma, gaslighting and powers…
Gaslighting is a form of psychological and emotional abuse that causes victims to doubt and question their own judgement, reality, self-perception and sometimes their sanity. Gas-lighters twist and distort the truth in order to manipulate, confuse and control their victims. The term…
A Positive Start
Saturday morning, its 6am and the sun is streaming through the crack in the curtains. With a hot cup of black coffee in hand, I sit down at my computer in my home-office (aka spare bedroom), as is my usual routine. I’m fully intent on mapping out my explanations of why the Funding providers…
S.T.A.N.D© is an acronym for Stop, Think, Act, Never Doubt – A trauma informed response to be applied in situations when an individual may be triggered by the behaviours of others. Developed in 2014 for Adverse Childhood Experience’s trauma support, S.T.A.N.D©…
Lifting The Mask of Persona
Narcissistic Traits Increasingly, the term; ‘Parental Narcissistic Traits‘ is being used to describe the childhood experience of a generation of adults brought-up in a strict and controlling, often toxic, sometimes religious environment. Now adults; many of these children are seeking…