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The Inconsistencies in What We Teach
The Inconsistencies in What We Teach - How Adult Behaviour Contradicts the Values We Impart to Children We tell children to “treat others as you want to be treated.” We emphasise the importance of respect, empathy, and kindness. Yet, when it comes to how adults treat children, our actions often…
The Most Important Question Never Asked: “Why?”
In schools across the country, a familiar pattern plays out daily. A student misbehaves — perhaps they lie, swear, have an “outburst,” or exhibit “bad behaviour.” The response? Punishment. Detention. Reprimands. These actions are justified as necessary for discipline and maintaining order.…
When Systems Fail Us…
When Systems Fail Us: The Cost of Exclusion in the Helping Professions When you’ve experienced trauma in your life — and by trauma, I simply mean a dysregulated nervous system — it’s all too easy to internalise the belief that “I’m not good enough.” These words don’t come from nowhere; they are…
Food for Thought
Conveying the experience of living through a dorsal vagus lens to someone who has never felt it is profoundly difficult. Having experienced life through both a dorsal and ventral lens, it's clear that the difficulty goes both ways. Just as it's nearly impossible to convey the weight of dorsal to…
From the Safety of Ventral
If you’ve been fortunate enough to spend most of your life in a ventral vagal nervous system state, you might not fully understand what it’s like to experience a dorsal state. You may not realize the toll it takes when an overactive inner critic constantly drives negative self-perception at every…
Imposter
What is Imposter Syndrome Really? Imposter Syndrome is often described as a persistent lack of self-belief — a chronic sense of self-doubt. At its core, self-doubt is a loss of trust, both in our own judgment and in the judgments of others. This loss of trust is, in many cases, a trauma response.…
Area of Compromise
There are many of us in the world who can find it difficult to express our thoughts and emotions.. struggling to articulate what we truly think and feel. Why is that? Some may believe we simply have nothing valuable to say. Others assume it’s due to a lack of intelligence or convince themselves…
Child Alienation
Alienation is when a child will reject a parent who they had previously enjoyed a happy and healthy relationship with (Treatment and Prevention of Parental Alienation, n.d.). Alienation is emotional, psychological, insidious child abuse, meant to intentionally damage a child’s relationship with a…
How I Think About Me
“Our life is what our thoughts make it.” – Marcus Aurelius This timeless quote from the Roman emperor reflects a profound truth: the quality of our lives is shaped by the quality of our thoughts. When Marcus said this, he emphasized the power of the mind in shaping how we perceive and respond to…
Dysregulation
Good Morning! Drawing on research in interpersonal neurobiology, Polyvagal Theory, and trauma-informed practices, we have developed a workshop aimed at fostering emotional regulation in schools. By blending these scientific insights with lived experience, our workshop provides practical strategies…