Lived Experience Blog
Dysregulation
Good Morning! Drawing on research in interpersonal neurobiology, Polyvagal Theory, and trauma-informed practices, we have developed a workshop aimed at fostering emotional regulation in schools. By blending these scientific insights with lived experience, our workshop provides practical strategies…
Underpinnings
You may have heard the saying, "What we put out into the world is what comes back to us." This couldn't be more true. When I finally understood that my choices were keeping me stuck in a cycle—different faces, different places, but the same situations—it was clear that the only way out was the…
Complex Trauma
People who have experienced complex trauma, often confuse feeling familiar with feeling safe. We may not know what real safety feels like, so we choose familiar and end up with more of the same… ‘different faces, different places, same old set of circumstances, same unhealthy relationships, same…
What does the opposite look like?
Lived Experience Insight Trauma alters our perception .. Very many years ago … although my eyes were showing me that connection, belonging, joy, love, calm, safety, happiness, peace etc existed… it only existed for others as far as I was concerned… It was impossible to comprehend that the same…
How do you feel?
‘How do you feel?’ Is a question I ask people frequently … Not everyone has the words to express how they feel… ‘Okay’! … is a popular answer -but what does ‘okay’ actually mean? T truth is, not everyone knows how to feel their emotions let alone knowing how to describe them. Have you ever…
Us & Them
I recall the day that my last unhealthy relationship ended .. I wasn’t expecting to be in an unhealthy relationship again to be honest… I was older now, wiser (allegedly), more self-aware. I’d overcome.. I’d been there, done that… got the T Shirt, and matching sweater… I’d worked on myself… I knew…
Awakening Vs Evolving
There's a lot of talk about 'awakening'... Seeing the world as it really is... Awakening is important.. but it's only part of the story - and it's not even the most important part... Awakening allows us to see 'the world' i.e. others' as it really is - or as 'they' are... But let's not leave…
The Illusion of Ethics
Cancel culture... manifested on the back of decades of installing an illusion of ethics. You know the kind of ethics I mean - the ones that are copy & pasted into every business & workplace, and nobody really knows what they mean. The kind of ethics that are so transparent they don't…
When the question is always Why?
Curiosity may have killed the cat, but for me, it remains a life-affirming pursuit. From as far back as I can remember..around the age of 3, I’ve been asking this question Why? ‘Why would someone choose to do that? “What would motivate that decision? “How did they arrive at this point? “ “When did…