I recall the day that my last unhealthy relationship ended ..
I wasn’t expecting to be in an unhealthy relationship again to be honest… I was older now, wiser (allegedly), more self-aware. I’d overcome.. I’d been there, done that… got the T Shirt, and matching sweater… I’d worked on myself… I knew stuff… at least I’d convinced myself I did…
… The last words he said to me as he threw his belongings into the back seat of his car .. hit me so hard I was sent reeling backwards, winded..
Awful, hurtful words… that would change me and
my life forever…
“ You were no challenge for me … far too easy … you were so desperate to be loved”
Ouch….
wounded…… viscerally…
I knew by how hard it had landed that as hurtful as it was.. there was truth in it …… #emptynest
and so the real journey of recovery began …
I learned an awful lot from that experience… including this… 👇
No one is more vulnerable than the person who believes they are not!
Don’t kid yourself… Ask yourself, what makes a person vulnerable? We all fit into it somewhere …
Every last one of us is vulnerable.. one way or another…
I regularly notice, especially in services … there’s this unspoken belief that the service user, client/patient/customer… are the vulnerable ones and we, over here .. the service providers .. we are the helpers….. the fixers… the not-vulnerable support …
Not true …
We must be mindful .. that we are all too often leaving ourselves out of the judging!
A truly person-centred approach recognises the individual as the expert…
not the service provider.. the service user … don’t let ego convince you otherwise..
Pay attention…
Don’t fall into that same trap of believing ‘it’s other people over there who are the vulnerable ones and I’m all sorted I’ve lived.. I know stuff …
Because life as a way of bringing us back down to Earth with an almighty bump… teaching us a lesson we convinced ourselves we’d already learned…
#personcentred
#healingjourney
#livedlessons
#TheTruthTheWholeTruth