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Underpinnings
You may have heard the saying, "What we put out into the world is what comes back to us." This couldn't be more true. When I finally understood that my choices were keeping me stuck in a cycle—different faces, different places, but the same situations—it was clear that the only way out was the…
Complex Trauma
People who have experienced complex trauma, often confuse feeling familiar with feeling safe. We may not know what real safety feels like, so we choose familiar and end up with more of the same… ‘different faces, different places, same old set of circumstances, same unhealthy relationships, same…
The difference between; Psychologist, Psychotherapist, Psychiatrist
“There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your Philosophy.” (Baskin, 2019). Shakespeare’s philosophical words speak to the larger human experience such as love, dreams, sensuality, and the imagination (Baskin, 2019). The philosophy of a Psychotherapist is that the…
Forgiveness In Therapy
Forgiveness is defined as the deliberate decision to let go of feelings of anger, resentment, and retribution (Cherry, 2023). Forgiveness is the cognitive, motivational, and emotional experience of decreasing negativity and increasing positivity (Mayo Clinic, 2022). Studies show that forgiveness is…
Roots
Examine your Core Beliefs! Healing and prevention requires love, compassion and empathy… As children, we apply meaning to experiences … Whenever we are excluded, bullied, abused, ignored, not believed, blamed.. The meaning (Because as young children we tend to view adults as perfect beings that…
What does the opposite look like?
Lived Experience Insight Trauma alters our perception .. Very many years ago … although my eyes were showing me that connection, belonging, joy, love, calm, safety, happiness, peace etc existed… it only existed for others as far as I was concerned… It was impossible to comprehend that the same…
How do you feel?
‘How do you feel?’ Is a question I ask people frequently … Not everyone has the words to express how they feel… ‘Okay’! … is a popular answer -but what does ‘okay’ actually mean? T truth is, not everyone knows how to feel their emotions let alone knowing how to describe them. Have you ever…
Chasing Safe
‼️Trigger Alert‼️ this post shares lived experience of Domestic Violence and trauma … “Trauma is not what happened to you… Trauma is what happened inside of you, because of what happened to you” - Gabor Mate You are a whole person - mind, body, soul … connected. When something terrible happens to…
Us & Them
I recall the day that my last unhealthy relationship ended .. I wasn’t expecting to be in an unhealthy relationship again to be honest… I was older now, wiser (allegedly), more self-aware. I’d overcome.. I’d been there, done that… got the T Shirt, and matching sweater… I’d worked on myself… I knew…
Awakening Vs Evolving
There's a lot of talk about 'awakening'... Seeing the world as it really is... Awakening is important.. but it's only part of the story - and it's not even the most important part... Awakening allows us to see 'the world' i.e. others' as it really is - or as 'they' are... But let's not leave…