Emotional Dysregulation
Emotional dysregulation is the inability to regulate emotional responses appropriately. It can lead to mood swings, significant mood changes, and emotional flashbacks and may involve a range of emotions such as sadness, anger, irritability, and frustration. Unaddressed, it can profoundly disrupt an individual’s life.
Emotional Flashbacks
Flashbacks, as commonly understood, are more recognizable because they are observable by others. In contrast, emotional flashbacks are internal experiences and thus not observable to anyone other than the person undergoing them. These flashbacks manifest as intense, distressing emotions felt deeply within the body.
Can Present as;
- Intense emotions
- Rapid mood change
- Inappropriate reactions to events
- Difficulty controlling emotions
- Knee-jerk / Instinctive Reactions
- Learned Behaviours/Maladaptive Coping Mechanisms
Over time, emotional dysregulation can adversely affect an individual’s quality of life, social interactions and relationships at home, work and school.
Co-Regulation
A dysregulated adult cannot regulate a dysregulated child, rather co-dysregulation occurs. Co-dysregulation is when the adult is initially calm, the child is stressed, and then the adult becomes stressed. Experience is energy and information flowing within us and between us.
Interoception
Interoception is a sense that allows individuals to experience sensations from within their bodies, varying greatly from one person to another. Attending to these bodily signals is crucial as they provide insights into the body’s condition and immediate needs. These signals often form the basis for identifying one’s emotions.
Neurception
The nervous system constantly monitors both the internal and external environment. When it detects safety, it shifts us into a state of connection, known as the Ventral State, fostering social engagement and peace. In contrast, when it perceives a threat, real or perceived, it triggers the fight-or-flight response to ensure protection.
Complex & Post Trauma
When a traumatic event isn’t fully processed, our brains and bodies might “store” parts of that experience in a way that bypasses normal memory processing. These unprocessed memories, along with their associated emotions and sensations, can resurface later, making it seem like the past threat is happening in the present.
Observable Behaviour
Behaviour can signal that an individual is dysregulated and manifesting internal conflicts, which may include:
- Physical aggression: Engaging in acts like hitting or kicking that cause harm to others.
- Verbal aggression: Employing threatening or injurious language.
- Emotional outbursts: Exhibiting crying, yelling, or other extreme responses that are excessive for the situation.
Teaching Awareness
A well-functioning nervous system transitions smoothly between states, using the ventral vagal pathway for social engagement and the sympathetic activation for necessary actions. Dysregulation can cause issues: dominance of the sympathetic response may lead to persistent stress and burnout, while dominance of the dorsal vagal response can result in emotional detachment and social withdrawal, hindering the ability to feel joy, relaxation, or connection.
Creating Safe Spaces
Trigger – identification & acknowledgement
Reassurance – and empathy
Understanding – and compassion from others
Safety – within and in our environment
Truth – and transparency in interactions